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side’s position, as well as to measure it and react to it
positively, and maybe use it when making decisions, have had
higher possibilities of going forward in every age.
It did not matter whoever he was when speaking of
human relationships. One can realise whether someone, from
famous historical figures to workplace colleagues, owns or
lacks this ability, which could be called a manifesto of a code of
civility.
What might be the other side, one may ask. Analytically
speaking, it does not matter, since every side is the other as
well. What matters is whether we caught the gist. Those with a
gentle heart would never cross a certain boundary, in spite of all
the knowledge and power they own. Few cases of persons are
more abhorrent than when someone crosses this boundary
deliberately, and the truths and information he claims to own
are only partial. He bends reality we would say. If we look at
our present-day history, the political milieu, and the privities we
belong to, we have experienced and still experience all the
shades of this moral corruption, whether we are at home or
abroad, and at some point we sadly conclude that we are
waiting for a positive outcome in vain; interests will eventually
overwrite what we would expect from civility, since the product
has to be sold, the case has to be won, and the agreement has to
be modified somehow.
All this endangers one quintessential commune of ours:
harmony, the harmonic life of the other side, the harmonic life
of all of us. Harmony is the gist of the quality of life and seems
even more important than living standards. One can wait for it
to come on its own and then complain about the lack of it, thus
forming a pessimistic worldview while we forget that we should
not wait for it, although we may be that lucky. You have to
acquire it. Harmony is quintessential to both the quality of life
and living standards. It is a misbelief that financial prosperity
will make one satisfied and happy. If one has a balanced and
harmonic way of life, one will move forward. A good example

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